Michael Wynne’s latest erotic release, My Life in Masturbation is available now! Michael is here today to talk erotica, inspiration, and masturbation, so get ready to get stimulated.
What are three words to describe your writing?
Revealing, reserved, and… I’m trying to think of another “re” word… something like refreshing, perhaps, or relentless. Remorseless.
Where did the inspiration for My Life in Masturbation come from?
The short answer would be: An old pack of naked playing cards from the 1970s. Someone gave them to me in the late 80s, I think, along with other porno-related stuff. I hadn’t planned for a whole book to come out of the fragments inspired by the cards, but I just kept going until I’d said all I wanted to say, for now. Some cards reminded me of people, others were just favourite ones I used to jerk off to, others were more a spark for general meditations on masturbation and relating.
What was the hardest part of writing My Life in Masturbation?
I think the hardest part – because I wanted to be honest in the book – was writing about the kind of person I was in my twenties, which is when I was given the cards. Maybe we all do not-so-nice stuff in our twenties, but it got me thinking about the people I was mean to, or betrayed. At the time I felt no remorse. I think that’s linked to being bullied and feeling like a victim and not being able to imagine that you can really hurt others. But you can, and I did. I like to think I’m more mindful nowadays.
Is there a message behind My Life in Masturbation, and if so, what is it?
That masturbation can be a great comfort; that how we masturbate tells us about who we are; and that it’s better to have sex than to jerk off.
How would you define erotica?
The honest and explicit telling of how one naked body on its own behaves, or how two or more naked bodies interact. Which is different to what porn is about. Erotica is not about getting off.
What is your favorite piece of erotic art?
Anything by John Preston, especially his book I Once Had a Master. If you mean favorite as in something I would go back to, then that would be it. Otherwise, I might have to say the first two or three volumes of the Meatmen comics. They blew my mind when I first discovered those books. I’m not really into porn, but those drawings made me masturbate more than one should. It was the shock of something so completely new that turned me on, like seeing a naked adult man for the first time.
What was the hardest part of writing The Confessions of a Sex Addict, Part 1?
To be honest, there wasn’t a hard part. I loved writing that book and I made a conscious effort to write a joyous book. The hard part is now, trying to get myself to sit down and finish Part II of The Confessions. I’m always looking for distractions, and I do good work when it’s the distraction bit. I write best if I can trick myself into thinking I’m just doing it for fun. As soon as I start thinking there’s someone who might be interested in reading what I write, I freeze up. Like, My Life in Masturbation was pretty much a distraction from Part II of The Confessions. That’s how I managed to write it.
What have you learned about yourself as a writer by writing The Confessions of a Sex Addict, Part 1 ?
That everything we write about is political, that even when we’re in the sauna sucking cock or fu*king some cute guy we’ll never see again, there is awful stuff happening in the world and you can’t think the two things aren’t connected. We are always choosing between turning a blind eye and taking responsibility. I’m not saying one is better than the other, because at the end of the day we have to look after our own sanity, but we’re all connected, and if we’re not nice to each other – which, on the whole, we’re not – then things are going to turn out badly.
Why do you think an individual’s sexuality is still such a huge issue in our society?
Sexuality is still this thing that people think is so private that it shouldn’t be talked about, or doesn’t have to be talked about. Yet we know deep down that it isn’t private, that it effects how we think, how we see the world, how we relate to each other. The confusing thing is that it’s really about love, and people don’t like talking about love. You can’t bash someone over the head with love. You can’t stand in a pulpit and accuse someone of love. The complicated thing is that the word “sex” is there in the word “sexuality”, but really what we’re talking about when we talk about sexuality is not about sex – or not just about sex – it’s about love. Can we have another word without sounding like we’re being sex negative?
How do you feed your inspiration and keep your creative muse happy?
What does being brave mean to you?
Looking for the thing you’re scared to write about and then writing it.
Where can my readers find you and your work online?
www.theconfessionsofasexaddict.com is the best place to find me. Or on Facebook. The Confessions of a Sex Addict, Part I is on Amazon, but I like it when people order my books directly from me. It makes me feel like I’m standing at my market stall and you’re just stopping by to chat and maybe liking what you see.