What does one do when the numbness settles in, when all feeling is gone? Whereas once you used to be able to cry over a Kleenex commercial on TV, suddenly you are faced with trying to drum up a tear over the death of someone. How do you conquer that, and why should you? After all, who wants to feel pain?
Every day, people find ways to erase the pain from their lives. They drink, shoot up, pop pills like candy. They gamble, shop, overeat, play nonstop video games. They do everything possible to erase the daily reminder that life is not fair, that life hurts sometimes. As a result, they go through life numb. They don’t feel their pain, but the flip side of that is also true. They feel no joy. You can’t erase one without erasing the other.
The only way to get rid of the numbness is to accept the fact that life can be painful at times. After you accept that fact, then you have to rid yourself of your numbing agent, whatever it may be. After that, you must learn to step into your feelings. Embrace the joy, but learn to embrace the pain as well. Even though it may not feel like it, pain is your friend just as much as the joy.
Pain helps define who you are. When you suffer anything on this earth, it forces you to reach into the deepest parts of yourself and find your strength. It brings to light talents and capabilities you never realized you had. It forces you to turn control over to God, your Maker. In Him, you will find the peace that you are seeking, the comfort that only He can give.
One of the reasons people try to escape pain (other than the fact that it feels awful), is because it makes no sense. Why suffer? Why accept that which causes so much misery? One of the reasons to accept pain is so you can appreciate the joy. Does not one who has been broke appreciate money far more than one who has never been without? Does not a person who loses his sight appreciate perfect vision more than someone who has always been able to see? Does not the homeless person appreciate a home more than one who has never lived on the street?
So in feeling pain, it is important to remember that pain always has a flip side. Don’t give in to the pain. Rather, accept it as part of life, knowing it is not permanent, knowing that something better waits on the other side of it. In doing this, you will be embracing life in all of its messy, beautiful detail. In doing this, you will find the inner strength to bloom as God shines His love down in great abundance upon you. In doing this, you will grow as God meant for you to grow. After all, even the trees and flowers grow best with a dose of both sunshine and rain.