When is the right time to get married? Previous generations got married young. But studies show that Millennials are delaying marriage. According to research done by the Brookings Institute, women are getting married at 27 and men at 29 on average.
Couples are delaying marriage and there are many factors that come into play.
“Culturally, young adults have increasingly come to see marriage as a ‘capstone’ rather than a ‘cornerstone,'” say the researchers. “That is, something they do after they have all their other ducks in a row, rather than a foundation for launching into adulthood and parenthood.” (Brookings Institute)
- Men are not wanting to get married until later. They are afraid of the struggle. Men want to have certain things in place and be established before getting married. Men of previous generations got married first and built his success with his wife. Today, men want to have everything in place first. They want the perfect career, the perfect car, a house or cool apartment, and enough money in the bank account. But, to be fair, a big part of that pressure is put on them by women with “standards”.
Related Article: Women proposing to men.
- Our generation has so many distractions. We have other things to do before “settling down”. Bucket lists are supposed to be for old people. Things to do after retirement. But our generation has turned the bucket list into a list of cool things to do before you get married and have kids. Travel abroad. Learn a new language. Run a marathon. We have to cross these things off the list before jumping the broom.
Related Article: Modern day dating with old school values.
- Men used to go to the military. Now men are in the military because they choose to serve their country. But there once was a time when every able-bodied man had to go to war. The draft. These men were more likely to get married. They were lonely and wanted to get married so they would have someone to come home to.
Related Article: Hone in on those 1950s Home Economic skills.
- Men and women are more likely to go to college. There was a big boost in people going to college in the 80s. Going to college delays the marriage timeline, adding at least four years to the process.
So we’re delaying marriage. Does it matter? We’re living longer. Finding new ways to have kids at just about any age. And making money and saving for retirement. Does it matter when we get married?
What do you think? Why is this generation delaying marriage?
Also read: Why you shouldn’t act like you’re married when you’re not.
***Did you like this article? If so, scroll to the bottom and click SUBSCRIBE TO AUTHOR to receive updates on future articles. Also, send relationship advice questions or article suggestions to firstname.lastname@example.org. And follow me on IG & Twitter @tcarr_examiner!
©Tara Carr 2015, All rights reserved. No part of this article may be reproduced without prior written permission and consent from the author or Clarity Digital Group LLC, DBA atombash.com.