“I wish I had been true to myself.”
This phrase is the number one regret of people facing end-of-life, as told by palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware. Also included in the top five regrets of her patients, is the wish, “that I allowed myself to be happier.”
These late-spoken truths should be considered a gift to those who are not living a life that is true – a choice that inevitably hinders physical and mental health. Rather than harbor these same regrets one day when hindsight is 2020, decide now to forget societal pressures and so-called ‘norms’ and take charge of your life by creating your own luck and choosing to be happy.
Realize early on that you are the only human-being on this earth that is responsible for your happiness. Good opportunities may come to you from the help of others, but making the decision to seize the moment, is ultimately on you.
Consider these 3 seemingly ‘selfish’ actions to start living your life, your way, right now.
1. Think about yourself and what you want – a lot.
How do I put this? You…are you! This means that your brain should be focused on your own needs, concerns, wants and happiness more than anything else. Let this healthy obsession occur!
Just as you converse in a relationship with someone else to understand their wants and needs – it’s important to converse, out loud, with yourself as well. It feels silly, but attempt to do this while driving or before bed. You’ll be surprised by how easy it is to embrace, and even more shocked by how much you figure out.
2. Seize the moment – tactfully.
You may be at a job now, where you have a lot of responsibilities and people counting on you. But, if another opportunity comes your way that feels more fitting and may make you happier – jump on it and don’t look back. You have to create your own happiness in this life and that won’t happen if you place the responsibilities of a job or the stress of others above your own wants.
Do however, give appropriate notice to your boss and work hard until the very end. This will allow you to feel free once you do move on, and enable you to fully give your heart to the next opportunity.
3. Never burn bridges – ever.
You never know where you are going to end up or what life is going to throw your way. Just because right now a certain job or situation isn’t what you want – who’s to say that it won’t be what you need (or want) down the road. Keep relationships alive and well. You’d be surprised how many people have found their calling through an unexpected source.
Nurse Ware unveiled the regrets of her patients, after realizing that the same themes surfaced again and again. Her hope is to share the impeccable clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, to help others choose a life of fulfillment and self-worth. Decide to make “selfish” choices today, and see where you end up tomorrow.