“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” For some time now, this has continued to be one of my favorite quotes.
Whenever I read an insightful book, participate in an inspiring event or have a timely conversation, the aforementioned quote always comes to mind and I think, ‘Oh, the universe is trying to tell me something.’
My perspective has been, the timeliness of such relevant messages is because the universe has decided it is time for me to receive a certain message.
With the meditations that were made available this past week, it has become evident that my perspective was all wrong.
It’s not so much that the universe decided it was time to deliver a certain message to me; it’s that my awareness has expanded enough to actually receive the message that was already there.
Each of us is immersed in the optimal environment that is conducive for self-reflection. These surroundings serve as our personal “feedback mechanisms” that are constantly revealing something to us. However, if we are not ready to see what our environment is reflecting back to us, it will not be seen.
It is the desire to learn that creates the experience for learning; and when you are ready to learn, then you will learn; just as when you are ready to see, you will see.
Continuing with daily introductions voiced by Oprah Winfrey and meditations by Deepak Chopra, week 2 of the 21-Day Become What You Believe Meditation extends the focus on seeing your true identity by Embracing and Transforming Your Beliefs.
Here is an excerpt from Day 10 on Living from Your Core:
“We’ve seen how powerful core beliefs can be when they are pure direct and life supporting. The closer you are to your core, or true self, the more power your core beliefs will have. The true self is quiet, living from the quiet level of the true self is the most fulfilling way to live. For many people however, their life is far from quiet and the reflections they receive contain mixed messages.”
“Mixed messages lead to reactions that control us instead of the other way around.”
“Take the second core belief, “I am worthy,” if this belief is compromised people around you will show signs of disrespect, lack of appreciation, and have a tendency to not take you seriously or to act superior and controlling.”
“When others behavior toward you reveals your own compromised self-belief, this is called a Reflection. It’s as if outer events are a mirror of your psyche.”
A few weeks ago, I was commissioned to work on a project that required me to work with someone who I (secretly) labeled as being controlling, demanding and moody.
Seeing that self-reflection amidst personal growth is a topic of deep interest to me, I am aware that every person in your life represents some aspect of yourself.
I also understand that when someone is directing harsh behavior toward me, it’s not necessary to take it personally. This is an opportunity to pause and ask myself, “How and to whom do I exhibit this same behavior?”
According to Dr. Chopra, “This kind of reflection is easy to react to and try to fix externally. What is hard to do is take total responsibility yourself. Most people spend their lives reacting to outer stimuli. Their minds do not penetrate to the level of core beliefs, because so much time and energy is spent at the level of reacting.”
Although I had not exhibited such behavior in a professional setting, (if we’re being honest) I have had the tendency to try to control my children and demand certain behavior from them; and if they didn’t respond to my liking, well I may have demonstrated a bit of moodiness and frustration.
I was ready to acknowledge that this person mirrored behavior I have exhibited and (hopefully) lessened however, I was not ready to see that my sitting in judgment of him was in fact not a judgment of him, but of myself.
What I learned in week 2 is, “We all have aspects of ourselves that we want to be separate from,” and I was in fact sitting in judgment of the part of myself I was trying to remain separate from.
If you look inside, you can recognize aspects of yourself you like to be separate from.
“They are not difficult to find because we apply emotional tags to them; tags like bad, guilty, shameful, embarrassing, failure,” and in my case, controlling, demanding and moody. “These tags are the actual obstacles of self-judgment the Self chooses to reject, avoid and hide from. These are the parts we judge against.”
The meditation has exposed the simple truth that when you’re ready you will be presented with “teachers,” or resources, to show you where the next stage of healing needs to occur. In the sincere desire to expand, I was able to draw into my awareness the very person I needed to show me exactly what I needed to see.
It wasn’t that “the teacher” was “out there.” The truth is the path was always there but now my awareness is ready to see and ready to use this information.
The appearance of “the teacher” is ironically not something that happens outside of us, it is more like we happen to it.
“Unless we overcome self-judgment, we can’t allow life to flow the way it wants to. To feel fulfilled and whole, you must take any moment of self-judgment and turn it around to instead ask, “What feeling do I actually want?””
“Your core beliefs are serving you if they bring fulfillment. Much less time is spent reacting because if you feel fulfilled it’s much harder for other people and external situations to push your buttons.”
“At your core you feel completely worthy; therefore your focus should be on getting closer to your core every day through your meditation practice. Instead your self-worth gently expresses itself in every moment through the quiet presence of your true self. There is a smooth flow of fulfillment. It is through fulfillment that we know a quiet core belief has more power than any reaction. No matter how strong.”
Truth has to be experienced personally, so as to be validated by you and through you. The Spirit of Truth is available to everyone at any time. It is an amazing resource that is always there for you to tap into.
At this point, it seems to me that life really is an adventure and each of us is here to seek and explore the unknown.
In the midst of your internal and external explorations, you can without question open the doors to discover the deepest parts of who you really are.
You can challenge yourself to overcome self-imposed limitations. You can surprise yourself with what it is you are capable of doing in this life, so you can look back later from a different level and observe that you left the world a better place.
Wherever you may find yourself in life, make the time to be an adventure unto yourself and become your own biggest surprise. And remember, one of the best parts of the journey is knowing that “you don’t need to go looking for the teacher. As soon as you’re ready, the teacher will look for you.”
For more information or to register for the “Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience” entitled “Become What You Believe,” log on to Oprah.com/meditation.