Throughout the life of a relationship there are many tests and strains a couple may endure. Every relationship has certain traps that you need to know how to survive in order to have a healthy partnership. But how can you identify these traps; considering most of them are very subtle?
One trap, and this may be the biggest trap in a relationship, is infidelity. The beginning of a relationship is always exciting and new, but it isn’t until months later that you may feel like you’re in a rut. That exciting new feeling is gone and you start craving that attention you once had. Let’s say you find someone who even just seeing their name online gives you that feeling.
Let’s also say that your significant other tells you to go see them; they tell you to test your feelings for this new person. Many people will fall for this and do exactly as their significant other tells them to. This will lead to you realizing how good you have it and that no one can compare to your current partner. You will realize that you couldn’t possibly feel as strongly for this new person.
When you tell your significant other of your realization, it may be too late to salvage your current relationship. Think about it, has your partner ever questioned their feelings for you as you did for them? Why would they want to be with someone who has to wonder what else is out there for them?
The easiest way to avoid this trap is to know that a relationship goes through changes. Sure you may not have that new feeling anymore but what could be better than knowing someone completely from the inside out? What could be better than knowing someone’s dreams, fears, and minor details that makes them, them? It is important to always remember what it is that made you fall in love with this person, and steer clear from temptation.
Another trap that may happen in a relationship is lying. If you feel as if you need to lie to your significant other to avoid a fight, then maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. Two people who are together should be able to tell each other anything since normally those two people become best friends throughout their time together. If you can’t tell them absolutely anything and everything, why are you with them?
When all else fails, put yourself in their shoes. What would you do if you caught your partner telling even the smallest of a lie? This could get you to start questioning everything they say. However, there is a difference between flat out lying and not mentioning something to them.
For example, if they ask you what you had for lunch and you forget to mention you had an apple as a side, that isn’t that big of a deal. But, if you receive messages from people or you have someone hitting on you, it is best to tell your partner instead of lying to them. When it comes to that remember, even not mentioning it can be just as harmful to a relationship as lying.
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