Few people in the world have been lucky enough to have avoided coming across the sugar coated pit viper — someone so sugary sweet to your face (you may need an insulin injection when you’re with them) who turns around in a heartbeat to betray, belittle and stab you in the back. (Most often associated with people in or trying to achieve upper middle and upper income brackets and social standings.)
Some people call this type of person “clever” or “cunning.” Another term used for this type of person is “social climber” because they’ll climb right over you to elevate their own position in life and society (or so they think.) And, still others look up to the sugar coated pit viper and mimic their behavior to get what they want from you and others. No matter what label you put on this type of person, rest assured their arrogance and lack of class shines through and there is nothing cute, clever or cunning about them and they are certainly not the type of person to admire and emulate.
Television Examples of the Sugar Coated Pit Viper
The sugar coated pit viper has been portrayed on television many times over. Why? Because they make for great story lines and people love to hate villians. Two great television shows that thrived on the sugar coated pit viper types would be “Revenge” and “Dallas” where no one could trust anyone and backstabbing took place every other moment. This is NOT how the majority of well off people live, and, those who do act in this manner will find themselves outside the very circle they were trying so hard to join.
Real Life Examples of Sugar Coated Pit Vipers
In real life the sugar coated pit viper might not be so easy to spot (at first.) Often they already belong to a club or association where you are a member or perhaps their child goes to school with your child. Regardless, if you are someone of position (meaning someone wealthy or has outstanding connections or both) then sooner or later the sugar coated pit viper will cross your path. They might join a committee you Chair so you get to know them and their name -or – they might buddy up to one of your friends first in the hope that he or she will introduce the two of you.
It won’t take long for the pit viper to show his or her true intentions. The overwhelming majority of sugar coated pit vipers are overly aggressive and do not take no for answer. Additionally, they are intrusive and have no guilt or shame to ask you how much you paid for something or how much money you earn or who you know or if you can introduce them to someone.
In short — they ain’t got no class!
How to deal with a Sugar Coated Pit Viper
Your own manners often have to be placed aside when dealing with a sugar coated pit viper. The only thing they understand is rudeness and bluntness, and, never allow them to turn the situation around so that you appear to be the villian. (And most sugar coated pit vipers are very well skilled at turning things around to they appear to be the victim.) The way to beat them is to keep focus on them and their actions. Here is how:
- If you find yourself embedded in a trick or set up (in a bad way) by a pit viper your first line of defense is getting your side of the story out there first. Even if it’s embarassing, it’s far better to tell then allowing the pit viper gain the upper hand. Just be sure you have facts or evidence to back up what you are saying to prove you are the one telling the truth.
- Keep your distance at all times. If a well known pit viper enters your social circle, keep your distance. Be polite but not overly friendly and do not let the viper near you. Give them nothing to use against you. Say and do nothing that could have a finger of blame turned in your direction.
- If you did do something and the pit viper calls you out on it, then admit it, render your mistake and move on. If your friends are true then they will stick with you through thick and thin. If not, then you’re better off without them in your life.
- Don’t engage in tit for tat. It is childish and only bring you down to the pit vipers low level of class. If it is a serious situation then take it to court, otherwise, don’t waste your time or energy on the person. You can do far better things with your time!
- Maintain your dignity and keep your cool. Pit vipers know how to push your buttons so don’t lower yourself or give them the satisfaction of knowing they got the better of you. Simply smile and back away and never engage again.