Take some time solidifying your marriage becoming one
It is important before you enter marriage that you have some serious conversations about what you expect from one another and how the two of you plan to merge into becoming one. You are two separate individuals with different likes and dislikes. You both have distinctly different unique temperaments. You both have developed friendships and relationships outside of marriage. You may want to think and ponder about how those relationships will now impact your marriage.
The two of you need to focus upon growing an intimate relationship of love with one another. It takes time becoming one.
This does not mean that you have to dissolve these other relationships. But it does mean that your marriage should become the first priority next to your relationship with the Lord! It is important to take time solidifying your marriage. God has created us therefore He certainly knows how to teach us how to relate to our spouses or future spouses!
Too often after marriage is when either or both spouses will find out that there are some interesting dynamics that they have developed with their friends, relatives and coworkers that may not fly with their spouse. For instance if you are used to going out and hanging out with the girls or guys every evening after work that might not be a good idea to continue to do so. Of course you can still have a girls or guys night out but you should really think about making your marriage top priority. When you do have a night out you should not act or behave as though you are still single. After all that is why you got married? Or maybe you did not include the vow that said “forsaking all others? “
When you marry someone who does not share the same values with you it can be very difficult. When you marry someone who does not know or love the Lord it can be very difficult as well if you are a believer. As a believer having God at the center of your marriage is important! Having faith in God and exercising the faith that He has instilled within you is very important!
A God centered marriage has a multiplicity of benefits. It gives you both access 24/7 to your Creator & Maker! Your mutual desire should be to allow His principles to take the forefront. You learn to invite God into your heart, marriage & home. Marriage God’s Way teaches you how to love one another properly. It is within marriage you learn how to speak the Truth in love even when it hurts. Yet your intentions are never or should never be to destroy, humiliate nor manipulate! Your desire should always be willing to adjust yourself to the “Will & Way of the Lord!” This will help you to better resolve any conflict as well. Your goal in marriage should ultimately be to create an environment where the love of God can grow and flourish! There is no firmer foundation. Remember; God’s Love lasts through Eternity!
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