As we move out of fall and into winter, this change comes with the anticipation of the holidays. Christmas decorations and store sales have already begun. With all of the excitement the holiday’s gift, they also heighten anxiety and stress, which can play out within your family causing havoc in your home.
Do you feel at home and comfortable around your loved ones or are you anxious? Is your family supportive and helpful to you or dysfunctional and stifling? There isn’t anything like the love of family and although you may feel like your family is abnormal at times, regardless, they are your family. Perhaps it feels overwhelming if they are overly involved or judgmental, or maybe you feel like they do not care at all because they are all consumed in their own problems, regardless, you share a bloodline and hopefully a family bond that is able to endure even the most difficult of times.
But, with life comes hardship and sometimes traumatic events such as health issues, loss of a loved one, financial difficulties, and other heightened circumstances such as the holidays can cause a breakdown in the family and negatively impact all of the individuals involved. If you feel like you are disabled by your family circumstances, especially with the up coming festivities, perhaps it is time to reach out to a family therapist.
GoodTherapy.org shared, “Family therapy attempts to understand the context of the behaviors in order to figure out how to change the whole system—and therein lies the catch. [For example,] If parents bring their children to therapy in order to be “fixed”, it might seem inconceivable to them that their child’s misbehavior is directly related to things like parents arguing, a change in the family’s economic or living situation, the loss of a parent’s job, death of a loved one, or the child’s feelings of disconnect from their parents.
In the 1940s, experts first began to understand that working with entire families helped with understanding and working with various challenges…
Family therapy works because it helps families recognize that the “enemy” is not other family members. What needs to be changed is the broken patterns of communication and the sense of isolation, fear, abandonment, and any number of other challenges that families face. Family therapy is not always fun and exciting, but the research indicates that family therapy produces lasting improvements for families who come in.”
It isn’t uncommon for family to sometimes feel a bit overwhelming but overall we should benefit from the bond of our bloodline; it’s a wonderful support. If this isn’t the case with you and your family, rally for positive change; with guidance there is hope to strengthen even the most dysfunctional circumstances!
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