If you read enough Hollywood columns and watch enough television, you are bound to get all sorts of advice about dating and relationships. If you look at the the track records of many Hollywood types, you may want to ignore much of what they have to say. However, at times they do have some wisdom to share.
In a recent New York Post article, titled You’re stupid for having sex on the first date, Dr Ruth (Westheimer) went on about how sex on the first date is is a “no-no.” This advice is not likely heeded by many of today’s young people. There is much pressure out there for young boys and girls to have sex if they want to be cool, popular, and dating. This is rather sad, because they don’t realize the shallow nature of such relationships and they don’t understand how many fruitless people they will sleep with leading to nothing meaningful a.k.a. a relationship. They are also rather clueless about the health risks they get exposed to in sleeping around.
Older daters from past generations have an entirely different take on sex and dating. They were generally brought up to place sex on a pedestal reserved for someone special. This is not to say that the hippie generation didn’t engage in lots of sex. They after all coined the term “free love.” However, after many years of leading more normal lives, they have learned that wanton sex is not the answer. Of course what is the question? The question is do you want a meaningful relationship? If so, sex on the first date is not likely to achieve that goal.
The next star powered advice comes from James Brolin, in a Page Six article, where he offers his number one marriage tip: Keep your finances separate. He married Barbara Streisand twenty years ago and they are still going strong. There’s much merit to his advice. One of the biggest strains on relationships has to do with money. If you are bound by money, there is always that concern or worry about what happens when, and if, you breakup? His advice makes a lot of sense for second marriages, or, as in his case, third marriages.
For most people starting out in a marriage, they almost always commingle their money. To not do this in a first marriage would be rather unconventional. Having separate accounts only works in a first marriage if both parties have a ton of money. If you are not loaded, and getting married for the first time, and your mate wants to keep money separate, you may have a problem. Not that it can’t work, but traditionally, one person is the bread winner while the other is the home care person. In those situations, you need to both have a financial interest in the relationship. If both have equal paying jobs and they decided to segregate incomes and share in expenses, it would make divorce much easier, but as noted, this is not the norm and tends to breed hostility and trust issues become ever present.
Well that’s it for rich and famous dating and relationship advice. As more comes down the pike you will be alerted accordingly. For more dating and relationship advice go to: http://www.whoyoudating.com and read the blog.