This article will discuss why conflict management is a skill that all preppers should acquire, and why this skill will serve them well. One example that will be used to illustrate the dynamics of conflict management will be a bug out situation in which two cars have been involved in a minor accident. Another example will illustrate how conflict management can help to keep domestic disputes from becoming domestic brawls.
Especially if there has been a car accident during a bug out, road rage can make this situation go from bad to worse. The prepper involved in the car accident should keep in mind that bugging out is the most important matter at hand. By keeping emotions calm, this prepper can avoid a brawl that would be even more counterproductive to an effective bug out.
One conflict management technique is for the prepper to keep his voice low and calm. Most people who fight will do so after an angry yelling match.
Another conflict management technique is for the prepper to keep his body relaxed. Just as yelling often precedes a fight, so also does a tensed body.
Still another conflict management technique is for the prepper to avoid showing fear or anger. Both fear and anger can result in aggression from another person who perceives this fear and anger. Proverbs 29:11 reads, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”
If the other person is venting his anger, yet another conflict management technique is for the prepper to listen while that person vents, and then to acknowledge the emotion expressed. For example, “You obviously are very angry right now.” Using the other person’s pauses to speak is less confrontational than interrupting the other person.
It also is important, however, for the prepper to maintain his personal safety during such a tense interaction. He should keep enough distance from the angry person to allow himself plenty of reaction time for self-defense countermeasures. If the person is too angry and aggressive, he should lock himself in his car.
Although road rage from a car accident is a good example of when to use conflict management techniques, there are many other situations that call for conflict management. During domestic arguments, for example, spouses who use conflict management will have better chances of resolving their conflicts with win-win solutions than they would have if their arguments degenerated into marital brawls. In the aftermath of an event such as a power blackout, tempers can be short, and uncontrolled conflict will not serve the prepper family well.
What situations have you been involved in that needed conflict management? What conflict management techniques have worked for you in the past? Please comment below.