How do you know when you’re dating a transgender? It is not like they carry a sign around their neck. This is an ongoing issue in the world. Some transgender people assume that their date knows. Is this the way it is supposed to work? This is something that should be addressed when you first meet. Yet some people become insulted when it is. So when are you supposed to know you’re dating a transgender?
You have just fallen head over heels for an amazing person. You have found everything that you wanted from another human being. The love is ecstatic. The compatibility is beyond mutual. Everything is going well after few months of dating. The two of you are ready to take the relationship to the next level.
Respect has brought you to the next step. There is nothing more gratifying than being intimate. This will be a moment to treasure. You have enjoyed a romantic evening. The next thing you know you’re both deep in passion. You’re both caught up in the moment. The kissing has gone from sincere to intense. Your partner quickly puts a stop to the touching. She goes to freshen up. You’re patiently waiting for her to join you in the bed. She turns off the light and does so. You have begun the caressing again. All of a sudden you jump. You have just discovered a hidden truth. Silence takes over the room. You’re filled with confusion and anger. You begin to question your sexuality. Are you secretly attracted to the same sex?
A man is drawn to the woman he sees in front of him. This also applies to a female dating a transgender male. People are physically attracted to what they see in front of them. If you’ve been dating this should be in your conversations. When the truth is found out at a more delicate time; it can ruin it. A transgender cannot expect their partner to know. You have begun the relationship with a lie. A transgender who is dating should do so with complete honesty. Isn’t that what being true to yourself is all about?
No one can help who they fall in love with. When you are happy with whom you have become. Be proud of speaking your truth. You have already chosen to live freely as you are. Do not start a relationship by not revealing it. Yes this may come to shock to your dates. It is better to always begin with truth. You can possibly be let down easily. Instead of being hated for lying. You just may find someone who will love you as you are. Honesty and communication is essential.
Do keep this in mind. Some people who become aware of the truth may not take it well. Then you have others who will follow their heart. A few will remain by your side. It is best to always be honest. Society makes dating a transgender difficult. I do not support it nor do I condemn it. I believe in being honest about who you are to everyone. This is a must with the people you date. After all you cannot control who you fall in love with. The heart knows no rules when loving someone. Society has made it a point to create boundaries in dating a transgender. When you speak the truth there should be no lies or no hate.