November 17, 2015 the book How to Want Sex Again, Rekindling Passion Using EFT written by Alina Frank went to #1 on Amazon within a few hours. Frank’s new book helps readers recognize that women who lack sexual desire are not alone. She introduces a technique, EFT Tapping, that has become popular in many alternative healing practices and has edged into a few mainstream places as well. Tapping offers privacy and control as a self-help opportunity, although Frank makes sure her readers understand the limits and know when to seek medical professional help.
Alina Frank says she’s dealt with this issue in herself and with hundreds of clients. “Let me tell you about a typical client named Margaret”, Frank says. When you look at Margaret, you’d think, “She’s got it all: handsome husband, college-bound children, big house in the suburbs.” Frank continues, “The odds are high that Margaret is suffering from a problem she’s too embarrassed to share with her closest girlfriends. She hasn’t slept with her husband in six months and she has lost all her desire for intimacy.”“Loss of desire doesn’t discriminate,” she says. “It can happen to anyone, any gender, social class, income or age.”
“Maybe a woman discovers porn files on her partner’s computer,” says Alina Frank. “Or she hates looking in the mirror because she’s convinced she’s ugly. She hasn’t felt desirable since her last child entered kindergarten.” Frank knows Margaret’s story all too well. A successful business woman, health coach and doula, she found herself struggling to answer the question she asked all her clients: “How’s your sex life?”
What motivated her to change, says Frank, is something few women want to acknowledge: “My kids were developing their own sexuality. I needed to be there as an authentic person with integrity. How could I help them if I couldn’t face the idea of having sex myself?”
After reading dozens of self-help books and consulting with “experts,” Frank turned to EFT, a technique that involves working with “meridian” points on the body. “It’s like acupressure or acupuncture, but mental instead of physical,” Frank says. “I’d used the technique before for smaller problems so I didn’t know if it would work on something so large and sensitive. I worked out a program that I share in this book.”
Today Frank has remarried and she’s enjoying every aspect of her married life, including total intimacy with her new husband. Her decision to divorce grew out of her successful efforts to regain her sexual desire.
“When people look at my photographs from five years ago, they say I don’t look like the same person I am today. My whole life has been changed as I worked on this one area of healing. I’ve gone from pale, unattractive, and unconfident to a vibrant outgoing, confident woman. I’m happy in every way and it shows.”
Frank emphasizes that anyone can benefit from her book, with or without EFT experience. She explains every step, even including sections on how to tell if you need more conventional therapy and how to get maximum value from EFT. She believes most readers will be women, but believes some men will “borrow” their partner’s copy.