Mommy and Me: Mother and Daughter bonding
by Lola Moxie Morrow and Catherine Al-Meten
No matter where you are or who you are, Mother and Daughter bonding can be fun for everyone. Especially in the summer, you have more time to spend with your mother. Some of the things you can do is go to the park, get ice cream, make a camp with just you and your Mother. Or you can just play games or bake. How would you like to spend this summer with your mother? Mothers and daughters come in all ages. Grandmothers and Mothers can also spend quality time together.
Girl’s Day Out. A perfect girl’s day out would be to get your nails painted together or to get ice cream. Another fun thing to do would be to explore some place you’ve never been before. For example, last year we explored the Exploratorium and Mission Dolores. Another good girl’s day out is to do some service. Last year we went to the North Beach Library and learned how to make origami gifts.
Go to Amusement Parks. Choosing the perfect amusement park can be hard because there are so many choices. However, if you ask your child or grandchild what their favorite amusement park is, they will tell you. And then you can plan a trip to visit one. For example, Disneyland or Knott’s Berry Farm are good options. You have to plan well in advance and save up enough money. Everyone can help plan for a trip to the amusement park of your choice. If you are really lucky, you might even be able go on mini-vacation of 3-4 days. It might be even better if you go on your daughter or granddaughter’s birthday.
Read books together. There are some really good novels that you can read together as a family. For example, the Island of the Blue Dolphins or Zia or Swiss Family Robinson, or Treasure Island. You and your Mother or Grandmother can take turns reading chapters of a good book together. You can read at the public library or at home. For examply, my Mom and Grandmother and I read Island of the Blue Dolphins in just a few days. We couldn’t put the book down. Even though it has 29 chapters, we read that book in just three days. We laughed, we cried, and we enjoyed the book together. We will never forget reading together. And next we’re going to read Zia, a book very similar to the Island of the Blue Dolphins.
Have a Dance Party. One of our favorite things to do is have a dance party all over the house. We put fake candles (battery-operated) all over and turn the lights out and we dance all through the house. We listen to Kidz Bop, especially “Timber”, “Super Hero”, and “Counting Stars”. We also listen to old music like “We Three Kings”, “Buffalo Soldier”, Pink Martini, the Dixie Chicks, and more. Dancing and singing are some of the best things mothers, daughters, and granddaughters can do together.
Building a Fort or a Castle is really cool if you do it with your Mom or Grandma. If you work together, it is easier and faster. You can use sheets, blankets, scarves, chairs, tables, and all kinds of household items to build a fort or castle. You can pretend you are Abbey and imagine you are living in a lighthouse. Or you might relive how your ancestors lived in a tepee, hut, or tent. You can pretend to be on a spaceship headed for the Moon or Venus, or Pluto. Your imagination can take you anywhere if you let your thoughts and your family enjoy the trip into magical places.
Play Balloon Ball together versus your Dad. A really fun thing to do is to play teams against your Dad with Balloon Ball. You and your Mom or Grandmother can use strategies, have a huddle ever once in a while to hear each other’s ideas. Balloon Ball is fun because you can’t get hurt if the balloon hits your face, and it’s hard to break anything in the house.
Grandmother and Mother bonding is also important, and often Granddaughters get to be part of this, making it three people having fun instead of two. It is important because it helps us keep close, have fun together, and enjoy each other’s company.
One of the things we like to do most is to go to a cafe and talk. Sometimes our lives get so busy, we don’t have time to do this simple thing. Going to a cafe or out to breakfast or lunch, or dinner, gives us time to enjoy being together and chat over a muffin and coffee. We like to try to find the best coffee shops in San Francisco, or anywhere we are. For example, Galvanize and Beacon are places where we like to spend time this summer. The atmosphere in both places is pleasant, beautiful, and tasty. Galvanize has some of the best muffins in town, and Beacon has some of the best bagels in town. The people who work there are very nice too. Galvanize has the greatest seats and work spaces, so we can do homework, read stories, write letters or articles like we are right now. http://www.galvanize.com/
Mothers and grandmothers can also work on projects for granddaughters together. For example, planning birthday parties, or sleepovers or play dates. Mothers and grandmothers usually enjoy doing this together. Grandmothers can be helpful in assisting their daughters with planning as long as they don’t try to take over. Listen to what your daughter needs, not what you think she should do or what you would did in the past. Share ideas, but don’t push. Work together to make a hard job easier, not more difficult.
Help each other with problems to find good solutions. If there is a problem that needs solving, help them figure out a good solution. Be a good listener. Sometimes people like mothers just need to talk things out, and they just need you to listen and support them. That’s better than giving advice. Help in ways that make their mothering job or work job easier.
Support one another, especially during busy or challenging times. Make it easier to take care of the kids. Grandmothers can be helpful by sharing the work. For example, if a family has 6 kids, grandmother can take care of the 3 older kids while mother is taking care of the younger, or vice versa. Or if mother is working very hard and has to work long hours, grandmother can be with the children and they can fix dinner together so when mother comes home, she can eat and relax a little. If there is a big feast, for example at Thanksgiving, they can split the work. When mother is busy or at work, grandmother can play with the grandchildren so mother can take care of important business.
Give daughters a night out. When grandmothers are in town or have a night to spend with their daughters and grandchildren, a fun thing to do is give Mom and Dad a night out. For grandchildren, gets a whole night with her grandmother and mother gets a whole night out with her husband.
If you follow these suggestions, you will feel closer to your Daughter, Mother and Grandmother.