It’s so easy to become discouraged today. Despite worldwide communication and instant communication at the touch of a button, it’s difficult to actually connect with people on a meaningful basis. It doesn’t help that much of what we see on Facebook and other social media sites are very negative stories—insulting comments, propaganda, offensive humor and the like. It’s an easy place to lose your soul, the new age “House of the Rising Sun”, at least for a person who likes to keep things positive.
And staying positive in a largely negative world is the ongoing struggle that productive, happy and motivated people fight every day. Positive thinking will directly and profoundly affect your success and personal and professional growth, but true mindset mastery is more than just positive thinking.
Attitude influences the way you view your own life, your state of happiness and the drive you have to challenge yourself and set new goals. A negative attitude is insidious; it taunts you until you become too scared or discouraged to think about future challenges. It limits what you can do because it limits the way you think—it can even limit your imagination and ambition.
The Lure of Negative Thinking
Pessimists, whether disdainful or even funny and likable, have a tendency to cut an optimist’s confidence down. Pessimists literally talk themselves and others out of new challenges and experiences because they figure it will never work. Their entire perception of life is negative and it’s inevitably going to end badly. The major problem here is that pessimists will create a circle of personal violence, in which they reaffirm their negative outlook on life by searching for more evidence to assure themselves nothing new is worth trying. Of course, one of the most telling things about the pessimist’s mind is that they are usually not happy with their lives.
What about the option of being a realist? Realists claim they are not pessimists, but they do actually subscribe to the same self-defeating logic as the pessimist, because they figure the world is unfair—which it can be—and so it’s best to prepare yourself for failure. It’s very easy for an “objective” viewpoint to become starkly negative, even if the realist doesn’t see it that way. Soon, the desire to try, indeed, to live and take on exciting new challenges will be defeated by the realist’s perspective that it’s a million to one shot—best not to expect anything. This instantly reduces your energy, your drive and your will to succeed!
The simple fact is that thinking optimistically and mastering your way of thinking is a way of life and is the only way to live your life if you plan to take on new challenges, experience new wonders of the world, and most importantly, stay motivated on the path to success.
What Mindset Mastery Really Means
People who have mastered their mindset approach every situation with healthy and beneficial feelings in mind, expecting the best in others and giving the best of themselves. They are generally happier in life, not because they stubbornly adhere to a delusional vision of perfection. No, they see a difficult situation but focus on the positive aspects of that situation.
Life coach Stephanie O‘Brien from www.movedbypurpose.net explains an important aspect about optimistic thinking. “Optimists have mastered the ability to see possibility and to act on that possibility. They don’t ask permission. They don’t set themselves up for failure. They go into a situation and give it their best, always finding a reason to stay positive. Regardless of whether or not they get a happy ending just the way they imagined it.”
Indeed, optimists always succeed in life because they don’t view stumbling as failure. They view it as a challenge. They always view life as opportunity to try something new, or get up and try again.
The power of positive thinking is that it inspires people to keep on moving. It inspires athletes to push themselves an extra mile. It inspires artists to take a chance and sometimes gain popularity they never imagined. It inspires people to rise up, against all odds, and make a difference in their community.
And yes it’s true—sometimes positive thinking can make all the difference between life or death. Patients in hospitals sometimes make rapid progress, even defying a grim medical outlook, because they were thinking positively during the recovery process.
Our bodies and our minds are simply made to survive, made to adapt and look for every opportunity.
Experts Explain How to Master Your Mindset
Mastering your mindset is more than just looking in the mirror and repeating “ I am beautiful, smart and people like me” every day.
Mindset mastery and personal development experts shared the following tips about mastering your mind.
• Change your physiology. Inspirational speaker and business coach, Penny Zenker said, “In psychology the quickest and easiest way to shift you mindset is to change your physiology. It immediately breaks the pattern of thought. Move your body, move your seat.”
• Remove your limitations. “My caution to those who have forgotten about this joy is not to judge yourself. Treat yourself as someone you love. Do not put limits are yourself. You don’t look stupid when you sing. Your artwork doesn’t look weird. Your stories are not meant for just your mom,” said Robyn Grodin on the Hype Orlando blog.
• Just breathe. Gary Van Warmerdam of Pathway to Happiness said, “It works in meditation or to help you work through anger, and anxiety because it is a way to consciously focus. Once you put your attention on your breathing you can drop out of a negative virtual world of the mind and enter the present moment just by that use of focus.”
• Practice Gratitude. “Whether it is right before you go to sleep, after you take the three deep breaths, or as you sit at the dinner table with
the family, think, write or share out loud what you are grateful for,” advised Shari Czar, founder of Infinite Heart Space.
Above all else, don’t deprive yourself of opportunity. It’s never too late to try and it’s never all for nothing. Sometimes success is overcoming your internal roadblocks and self-defeating behaviors and simply getting out of your own way.
For more information on getting out of your own way, custom success training and mindset mastery tips, attend Stephanie O’Brien’s seminar in Detroit on November 14th.