Do you work, go to school, maybe work and two jobs? Maybe all of the above and you juggle 2.5 kids. Maybe you do all of that but are grandparents. Think about all of the “me” time, couple time missed out on through all of the hustle of just your day to day bump and grind. What do you do when one day you wake up and several years have gone by? Well today is, I hope, the day that you rethink things and make sure you have a healthy order in all your stuff.
Really, some of the most successful marriages make sure the just have maintained one simple thing…balance. I know, easier said than done, right? So how do you find balance in all your stuff and lose your individuality, because face, although married some people like there “me” time. Which is ok if its kept healthy and balanced. Mutuality is one of the most important aspects of marriage success. But how do you become part of a couple while maintaining a strong sense of yourself?
How do you manage your need for time together and time apart? Do we take turns watching both kids, or do you get one and I get one? And what do you do if you and your partner have different ideas of how much time to spend together? How much time together is enough? Is there such a thing as too much togetherness? Is there a way to maintain closeness even when your work life is especially demanding of your time and attention, perhaps including prolonged separations?
Can you imagine this, one couple with 5 children and one child is a special needs child. I know a couple like this. It is possible to run into a couple like and know the stress, why? They maintain a personal balance. They find time for each other and come across as happy couple. It’s common for couples to struggle over finding the “right” balance of time spent together and apart, as well as what level of closeness to maintain with one’s original family.
However, your aim should be to find a cooperative rather than adversarial way to engage in this essential process. Once you have started working against each other the slow erosion of your marriage has begun. When we fall in love and meet that most amazing person for us, we feel as if we have finally come to a place where we can rest. It not easy to meet the right person to spend our lives with and the search can be long, disappointing and hard.
When it finally feels right, all of that disappointment is quickly erased and it feels as if it all had a purpose once we have met the one we want to settle down with. There is not a more beautiful feeling than this. What do we do then, when we know we have met our perfect partner and over time it seems as if what we have is almost too good and things start to become stagnant or flat. Maybe the question is why do we allow for this to happen for us and that “special” person. It can be difficult to find a healthy balance in your marriage when it comes to meeting your needs as a couple, each spouse’s individual needs, and the needs of the children, and grandchildren. This can especially difficult when you take into consideration the importance that the balance has on a family.
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