Margaret Cho is divorcing her husband of 11 years, artist Al Ridenour. “I’m married to a man but I’m bisexual so I like both. We got together because …we both have this (idea), I just don’t want to have sex with the same person my whole life. That’s just gross,” comedian Margaret Cho joked about her marriage two years ago. But was it really a joke?
Comedian Margaret Cho filed her divorce papers this week in Los Angeles, according to an August 13 People report. According to the court documents, 46-year-old Cho and 54-year-old Ridenour had already been separated since last September. As for the legal grounds of their separation, the documents cite “irreconcilable differences.”
Cho and Ridenour were married in 2003, and back then, the “fearless, hilarious comedian-activist-performer” (as she was described by a wedding magazine), said that her wedding was extraordinary.
“My wedding was the best wedding I’ve ever gone to. It was the coolest and the most interesting and the most fun.”
As for her marriage, Cho said during her interview in 2003 that despite being artistic, she and her new husband were having a traditional marriage:
“No, it’s very conventional and conservative, I think. I mean we’re such weird people that people just can’t imagine that we would have a conventional marriage. But, yeah, we are very conventional.”
In 2013, just 10 years after talking so much about how “conventional” her marriage was, Margaret Cho came out as bisexual. In an interview with The Real, she said that she had been happily married for ten years, but that her relationship with her husband Al Ridenour isn’t like the ones most married couples have. The couple has an open marriage, meaning they can sleep with whomever they want:
“I’m married to a man but I’m bisexual so I like both. We got together because …we both have this (idea), ‘I just don’t want to have sex with the same person my whole life. That’s just gross. We have a really big house. It’s kind of like if we wanna have that, it’s like, ‘You can stay on your side or I’ll stay on my side.’ When I see her, I’ll make her dinner. … Oh yeah. I’ve definitely been in the house [when her husband had another woman there].” And she didn’t get jealous, she says.
Margaret Cho divorcing her husband after 11 years of marriage and nearly a year of separation makes one wonder whether her comment about not wanting to spend the rest of her life being intimate with just one person was a joke or not. Cho and Ridenour have no children together.