Warning, this is brutally honest article about an awkward subject: obesity. Fat people often think others are fat-shaming them. Some people do body shame the obese and shouldn’t. But most of the shame comes from within ourselves. Granted, we should accept and love ourselves. That’s what should happen. In reality, obesity causes self body-shaming, self-consciousness and misery. But losing weight can heal that. Losing weight gains confidence, self-esteem and poise, even if you never had it. Here’s how.
Healthy, safe dieting
Keywords here are “healthy” and “safe.” Crash or fad diets, where you eat only a few foods, buy special products or restrict entire food groups aren’t healthy. Lengthy fasting deprives us of nutrients. We get shaky and crabby. Our body rebels and demands what it needs. I don’t know about you, but when I’m starved, jittery and exhausted, I’m not at my best. Follow my blog My Diet Digest for sensible safe diet tips.
Lose weight, lose the ‘tude
Fat is a real positivity killer. I felt weak, out of control and ashamed. My negative self-image said I was useless. Fat-attitude is defeatist. So, I changed my mind and adopted skinny-think. Instead of moping about being fat and complaining that I couldn’t lose, I challenged myself to get thin. And it happened. Losing weight is mind over matter–literally. I felt more attractive and proud of myself for having the gumption to lose.
Look good, feel good
I’m down 9 sizes and am doing a wardrobe makeover. I used to dread shopping. Nothing fit, except frumpy and dumpy plus-size. It’s like garment designers don’t even try with plus-size. Anything will do for the fat person. There’s a kick to the confidence. Trying on clothes that once fit and were too tight made me miserable. I’d grab the blah and ugly, not caring how it looked or fit. Now I can shop misses and juniors and get more fashionable styles. I bought my daughter and I matching skinny jeans. I fit a size small two-piece bathing suit. Granted, adults may not want to wear teeny-bopper fashions. But it feels good to know you can!
I’ve always been uncoordinated. But gaining weight made me a downright klutz. My posture was terrible. I felt and looked awkward. I sagged and tried to hide my fat. I wore awkward, strained facial expressions. I was ashamed and it showed. Now, I’m more graceful. I’ll never be a Dame Margot Fonteyn, but at least I can walk without stumbling. Now I hold my head proud, instead of slouching in shame.
Healthy is happy
People say I make them smile because I’m always smiling. That’s not bragging. If I glow on the outside, it’s because I’m cleaner on the inside. Obesity brought many health problems–high cholesterol, pre-diabetes, liver swelling, back pain, breathing problems. I cleaned the junk from my diet. I use antioxidant acai, apple cider, coconut oil and green tea to cleanse my system. Most health issues cleared up, too. I still struggle with some–who doesn’t? It’s part of life. But feeling better, I feel stronger and better able to cope with them.
Want to put some spring in your step? Shed those extra pounds (if you have them). You’ll be glad you did! Your body will bless you with a happier, healthier you. For more mental health tips, visit my blogs Emotional Health Help and Health Help 4U.