How many people are looking for that perfect relationship? While not everything is so called “perfect,” there is hope for those looking for a happy and loving relationship. After all, we deserve that, right? David and Jamillah Lamb are the creative dynamic couple who founded Between the Lines Productions, Inc., to full their co-mission: to spread inspiration, joy and love through the power of theater and other media. They are also the co-authors of a fantastic relationship book, Perfect Combination: Seven Key Ingredients to Happily Living & Loving Together. I asked them for the scoop on finding that perfect relationship so that we could show people that it really does happen if we know what to do about achieving it.
Dorothy Thompson: Thank you for the opportunity to ask you about relationships and how to improve on them. Can we begin by asking you how the two of you met?
Jamillah & David Lamb: We broke a taboo (smile) — we met at work. David worked in the NY office and Jamillah worked in the SF office of the same company and we met on a corporate retreat in California. The truth is I had seen Jamillah’s photo on the wall in our office from the retreat the year before, and I was struck by her beauty and smile. Something told me, I’m gonna marry that girl. And when we met it was love at first sight.
D.T.: How is your relationship any better by incorporating the seven key ingredients to help live happily and lovingly and if we follow them ourselves, will that improve our own relationships?
J.L & D.L.: Well when we have disagreements we handle them like adults by following learning to disagree without being disagreeable. Everyone is going to have disagreements, but it’s how you handle them that matter. And on the flip-side we love like kids, and by that we are willing to our love on display to each other without fear of embarrassment or rejection. PDA’s are okay with us!
D.T.: Can you give us one of the seven key ingredients and how to apply that to our own relationships?
J.L & D.L.: Let Your Past Be Your Past
2 Cups of Being in the Moment
1 Cup of Forgiveness
1 Tablespoon of Humor
Each day with love is new. So any chance that you get to love, take full advantage of it.
All of us have made some bad choices and thought they were good choices at the time. We have all been hurt and some of us have hurt others, but that is the past. When you get a new chance at love, you have to treat it like it’s new don’t make your new love pay for past mistakes.
D.T.: Do you believe in soul mates?
J.L & D.L.: Absolutely. We have to, given how we met. David is a New Yorker through and through and the only time he ever left New York, years before we met, was for an extended period was to work for a summer in Chicago, at the bank right around the corner from my house! He swears I must have seen him and fallen in love then. Also, while going to speak at colleges, I was invited to speak at one college by Jamillah’s cousin and at another college by her brother (without either knowing about the other) both times years before we met. So the first time I walked into her grandmother’s house and saw her cousin, I was like wait a minute, have you guys been setting this up all along, so it just seemed like destiny.
D.T.: Do you believe you both were together in another life?
J.L & D.L.: Well we certainly hope to be in the next one.
D.T.: Tell us about the play both of you are involved in?
J.L & D.L.: David is the writer and I am the producer.
The play is Platanos Y Collard Greens. It’s a romantic dramedy about a relationship between two college students who fall in love at first sight, until her mom finds out and has a heart attack!
D.T.: Does working together make you closer?
J.L & D.L.: We spend almost every waking hour with each other. Working in theater and running a business together demands all of our time–whether it’s being at a radio station for a 6 a.m interview, or being at a 10 p.m. rehearsal. Our lives are lived together. Traveling this road has taught us, and continues to teach us, that to thrive as a couple we have to be on the same page– or have peace about the places in our lives where we are not. When you think about it, every couple works together. Have you ever planned a party together? Negotiated what movie to go see or where to take a trip? Working together has amplified the time and the number of decisions we have to make together and we’ve had to develop tools to make things go smoothly. And what we’ve seen is that these are tools anyone can use to find love and happiness.
D.T.: What words of advice can you give people to help improve their own relationship?
J.L & D.L.: Don’t let whatever you dealt with during the day disturb your time together. If you need a comedy or a shower to get the day off of you, do it so you can start fresh with your partner.
D.T.: What’s next for the two of you?
J.L & D.L.: Releasing David’s new novel next spring, It’s Good To Be King (Until The Bell Chimes).
You can visit the authors’ website here to find out more about this exciting new book!