Cheating. The one word you hope never comes up in your relationship. The biggest betrayal. The most painful thing your significant other can do to you. But what counts as cheating? Obviously sleeping with someone else and having an ongoing affair would count as cheating. But what about just one kiss? What about texting someone every day? What about flirty emojis? Where do you draw the line and how do you even recognize it???
An emotional affair can be defined as: “A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. (Wikipedia)
What is emotional cheating?
Emotional cheating occurs when a relationship with someone other than your significant other crosses the line. Here’s a clue, if you feel that you are crossing the line, you probably are. You know what that feels like. Recognize it and avoid it at all costs. Nothing and no one should be able to come between you and your partner.
How do you recognize it?
Most often, you just get a feeling. If you notice that your partner has been distant, they may be cheating (physically or emotionally). Most people are not able to give their all romantically to more than one person at a time, so they will start to pull away from you. You may also (accidentally or intentionally) come across physical evidence of emotional cheating in emails or text messages.
Is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating?
Yes and no. Physical cheating is very painful and difficult to overcome. But at least with physical cheating, you can excuse it away as just an action. Emotional cheating is far more painful and therefore, more difficult to overcome, because your partner has established an intimate connection with someone other than you. You’re supposed to be the one they confide in and open up to and share things with so when they choose to turn to someone else for all of that, it can cut deeper than the pain of physical cheating.
How do you move past emotional cheating?
The first thing you have to figure out is whether or not you want to. Do you still want to be with them after this? Do they even still want to be with you? You absolutely don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. But if you both decide you still want to be together, the next step is couple’s therapy. In order to really move past something as hurtful as cheating, it is important to work with a professional who can provide you both with some perspective from the outside looking in.
What do you think? What counts as emotional cheating? How do you recognize it? Can you move past it as a couple?
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