Love. It can suck sometimes when all parties are not fully committed. When the relationship commitment is lacking, the breakup is inevitable. Fortunately, the social media network Facebook wants to make your breakup process less painful with new tools to see less updates and photos from an ex without the need to unfriend or hide your former partner from your timeline. More importantly, the new tools will make changing ones profile from relationship status to single easier by not making it a noticeable public display. You will have full control over who can see posts related to your former love interest and untag yourself from statuses and pictures as well. Facebook let users test out the new ‘Take a Break’ tool via Facebook mobile this week.
People appreciate Facebook taking the initiative to listen to customer feedback to develop resources users can benefit from during difficult life circumstances. The new tools will help those going through trying times in their relationships as well as help people breaking up find the process easier. You can find the ‘Take a Break’ tools on the help center section of Facebook. Leave a comment with your reaction on the ‘Take a Break’ tool to let us know if it makes the breakup process easier for you. If you are going through a very challenging breakup, here are some tips to help you get through and be on your way to a better life and healthier relationship:
- Cry and yes, it is okay for men and women to cry after a break up. At the end of the day you are human and the person matter to you at some point. Do not pretend you never cared about your relationship because it will make it harder to truly heal from the break up whether you ended the relationship or not.
- Be proactive about your emotional and mental help every day after the break up. Go exercise, meditate, pray for healing and talk it out with anyone who will listen. Releasing your frustration and sadness in positive ways is the first step to healing after a break up.
- Avoid your ex at all times, especially if the person cheated on you. In this day and age people break up for ridiculous reasons because they never had the maturity to be in a healthy relationship. No relationship is perfect, but abusive relationships need immediate ending. If someone is okay abusing you mentally, emotionally or physically, avoid all contact with your ex. You deserve better treatment and should love yourself enough to want better for yourself. Now, if you are misunderstanding each other and still have feelings or you broke up because someone moved to a different city, nothing more or less, then you can keep in touch and work out your feelings. But anything hinting abuse, do not engage.
- Stay busy. This is crucial to healing because you cannot stop living because yesterdays didn’t work out. Yes, this means getting off your couch and living life. Take some mental health days. Go spend time in nature; do something. Everything is going to be okay. It will take time, but life has a way of working itself out. No, you will not feel amazing and back to your normal self in an instant, but that day will come.
- Do not enter a rebound relationship to simply get over your ex. This is not only selfish, but brings more people into the picture with the intent to hurt someone who may or not fall in love with you. Give yourself time to be healthy enough emotionally and mentally to fully commitment to loving someone new. Jumping into an instant boyfriend/ girlfriend status, or even a marriage will not help you heal or make things right. If anything, it will cause more problems for you because you didn’t take the time to heal and embrace loving yourself, so you can truly love life as well as another human being. When going into a relationship, you don’t want to come from a place of pain because you will prevent yourself from fully connecting with your significant other. Don’t let that happen…take your time. You will find love again…better love and experiences if you mentally and emotionally take care of yourself first. You want to make an effort to be the best version of yourself so you can attract people who are mentally and emotionally healthy for a relationship too. For more information on getting over a break up, subscribe to the DC Relationship Examiner today. Good luck.