If you have suffered trauma in the past or you are currently suffering and you are having difficulty recovering it is likely you will benefit from the practice of emotional safety planning. Many times while we are trying to cope through something difficult or in the aftermath of it, we tend to blame ourselves. We carry guilt for making bad decisions, we hold onto regret for not making a decision quick enough or we may feel shame for things we’ve done in our lowest moments. We look into the mirror and we see someone we do not like any longer; our sorrow and self-blame combines and this causes us to bereave the healthy person we once were.
When we do not like ourselves our world feels desolate, physically and mentally we lose our vitality and our healthy suffers further. It is a scary place to be and if you are in it or you know someone who is, emotional safety planning can offer relief.
The hotline.org offers several safety plan ideas:
“Seek Out Supportive People
You deserve to feel safe while expressing yourself and your opinions, and having supportive people around you can help foster this space…
Identify and Work Towards Achievable Goals
…taking one step at a time can be very helpful in overcoming larger tasks later… taking small steps can help options feel more possible when you are ready.
Create a Peaceful Space for Yourself
Designating a physical place where your mind can relax and feel safe can be good option when working through difficult emotions that can arise… Incorporating other elements such as calming music, plants, or tools to journal is an option to explore…
Remind Yourself of Your Great Value
You are important and special, and recognizing and reminding yourself of this reality is so beneficial for your emotional health… Writing messages to yourself about things you like about yourself or saying these things out loud every day can be good ways to start…
Remember That You Deserve to Be Kind to Yourself
It is easy to fall into a pattern where we put extreme pressure on ourselves to make the right decisions right away. This isn’t always possible, and it’s completely okay to take whatever time you need to make whatever choices are right for you…”
The article goes on to talk about the need to practice self-love and self-care. In times of recovery, we must be patient and gentle with ourselves.
It is important to realize and appreciate our strengths and to treat ourselves as we want others to treat us. We teach through modeled behaviors.
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