In your workplace and in fact in life in general don’t you find that your attitude sets the table for the rest of the day. Isn’t it true that what follows on a day when we have a smile on our face and a great attitude is smiling faces in return and a great attitude back to us?
The fact is we do feel better when we have a good attitude.
What should we do when there are negative people around us? There are many people who are negative all of the time, complain about everything and feel they are always the victim in every case.
Here are seven steps to consider to keep the negativity from someone else off of you.
1) Do not get into a debate with a negative person. Once you do and you engage, the negative person will take you along their path of negativity to the point where you will forget your way out of it.
2) Do your best to set limits and boundaries, especially in your work environment. A toxic person will do their best to have you breathing the air of their problems. They are not interested in hearing solutions. They would rather have another guest at the table for their pity party. Set limits and distance yourself when necessary.
3) Surround yourself with people who are positive and who have a healthy attitude. This is the type of energy which in every possible positive way feeds off of itself with great positive energy.
4) If you are not able to consistently create the environment in the third step, at least reduce the amount of time you are around negative people. If you are around negative people too much you begin to view life through their lens of negativity. If you ultimately have a negative mindset, life will reward you with plenty of negative outcomes to adjust to. Follow the advice of Joel Olsteen, “You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang out with negative people.”
5) It is about your health as well. There is research that shows that people with negative attitudes have significantly higher rates of stress and disease. The mental state of a person plays a huge role in their physical health. If a person is always negative and they are making life difficult for people around them, you can be certain the results are much worse for them.
6) It is highly possible the negative person at work may be your boss. The person you actually report into. What a sad reality, that someone has so much pain inside them they have to act out just to feel some sense of relief, even if that relief comes from getting a rise out of people. The best thing you can do is to not allow your reaction to take place. Do you best to remain neutral. Try to consider how much this person is suffering, This may help to make it easier to stay focused on minimizing negativity, as opposed to defending yourself.
7) Take a look within ourselves first. We all have challenges we will face in our lives. No matter how many negative and difficult people you will have to deal with it is always better to take a look at what you could do better instead of pointing out what they are doing wrong.
Add into the mix the use of positive affirmations and the negativity of others will stay off of you. Contact Mitch here to learn more about positive affirmations.
Mitch Tublin is an advanced certified executive and personal coach who resides in Stamford, CT.