Change—will we always be mature enough to recreate ourselves? Change is hard.
There is a new book by Shirley Palmer called 12 Words: Think It-Feel It-Do It that seeks to have us feel and describe what is happening, along with tips on how to imagine excitement for change, and idea on how to figure out the baby steps needed to realize a goal or need.
Palmer says we can manage change by:
- Getting in touch with our true feelings to greatly reduce fear
- Recognize the pluses and minuses of your desired change
- Focus on optimism
- Examine your true feelings about your old situation (reality check)
- Prepare mentally
Palmer says if you can stay clear, focus and use a concrete number such as: I will lose not some weight but ten pounds; it will help. By writing the goal down and making it measurable, the concrete terms will help you to keep your objectives.
You ultimately must change your mind before you change anything. Palmer calls fear=False evidence appearing real. So by identifying the root cause of your fear you can work through to success. This Palmer truism is very inspiring: “it is not through success that we become wise by through your failures.”
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Today Shirley Palmer offers some tips on making the most of the holiday season.
1. KEEP IT REAL
Instead of playing the old record of memories of previous holidays allow yourself to visualize a great holiday. Focus on the opportunity of downtime, the possibility of fun, excitement, delicious home cooked food and positive family stories.
2. DO IT YOUR WAY
As Frank Sinatra said, “I Did It My Way.” Make this your mantra this holiday season. Don’t focus on people pleasing and find a way to enjoy it, live it and just be you. Remember this life is yours for living so choose wisely and from your own perspective.
3. BE KIND
Kindness is one of the most awesome gifts you can give to others and yourself. No matter what situation arises this holiday season focus on being kind. We never know what turmoil someone else is going through in their lives and the one thing they might need today is a kind word or a hug.
4. TAKE A MOMENT
Holiday season is one of the busiest in our annual calendar and before you know it, it is over. Allow yourself to find moments where you can savor the joy, the happiness, the peace and the love amongst your family and friends. It is there if you allow yourself to see and feel it.
5. KNOW YOU CAN
Lose the negative mindset and know you can fully enjoy the holiday break when you detach yourself from the emotional baggage of others. Acknowledge what is going on, what is real, what’s a game and, most importantly, have an attitude of gratitude and embrace the fun side of the holiday season.
12 Words: Think It, Feel It, Do It by Shirley Palmer, Brown Books Publishing Group, 2015. ISBN: 978-1-61254-246-1.