You’ve been anticipating your first date with a new guy or gal, you hit off great when you first met or talked, and, you may even be hoping that this person is the “one.” You go on the date and then it happens… The worst date of your life! Your date is boring or arrogant or just not who you thought… You check your watch. It feels like an hour has passed, you check your watch again and it’s been 5 minutes. You’re on the date from hell. Now what do you do?
First, relax. There are few people in the world who haven’t experienced the bad date, so, take consolation you’re not alone. Second, remember that it is only the first date, don’t bolt just yet (unless something really offensive is taking place.) If you’ve given things a fair amount a time, and, let’s be generous here and say at least 30 to 45 minutes, and, you realize it is a huge mistake then yes, you may absolutely end the date. The most important thing to remember is to use tact. Chances are the person on the date with you doesn’t have a clue you are no longer interested.
Here’s how to excuse yourself from the bad date:
Don’t lie. Sure, it might be easier to say you think you’re getting a cold or that you have a project due at work you totally forgot about and have a deadline of tomorrow; but, there is no guarantee that Mr. or Ms. Not-Right will take the hint that you’re not into him or her. The better approach is to be truthful, but, not brutal. For example “Jim, I’m sorry. I thought we might be compatible but, I don’t think this is going to work for me. I apologize for accepting the date, but, I think it is best that I go home now.” The key here is put the blame on yourself and not on your date. You’ll come across much less offensive than if you say something like “Jim, you’re a pig! I don’t know why you even asked me out. Take me home. NOW!”
Don’t accept a second date. If you can somehow get through the first date, but, there isn’t any saving grace to your date and you don’t want to see the person again, then, don’t accept a second date. It may sound easy and logical, but, there are both men and women out there that know how to corner people and make them feel trapped, and, in turn, nearly force someone to accept a second date. It may take a forceful “no” from you, but, you can do it. No one has the right to try to intimidate you into dating. If you have fears the person may stalk you if you say no then report the situation to the police. It may be overcautious but, you really don’t know this person, and, it is far better to be overcautious than to be too trusting in this situation.
Don’t bad mouth the person. Again, it may sound simple and logical, but, don’t go around bad mouthing the person who was the bad date. If people ask about your date, it is best to say that you simply weren’t compatible. The only people you should go in depth about a bad date are your closest of friends that you know you can trust not to take the information any further. Anything less is simply low class.