There are people everyday, saying that they are lonely; some are single, some are married; some don’t have families, but some do have families; some have jobs, some don’t have jobs; some are ill, but some are healthy. There doesn’t seem to be a pattern or common ground. People can come from different backgrounds, with different levels of education and a different economic status…still lonely. What’s the problem? There is an addiction that has not been fulfilled.
You say, ‘wait a minute. I don’t have an addiction.’ Yes you do. First of all, what is an addiction?
An addiction, is a dependence, need, craving, and an obsession.
You can’t seem to live without it; when you can’t get it, you’re depressed, irritable, frustrated and unproductive. You’ll lie to get it; you’ll compromise some things to get it and you’ll go to great extremes to get it! Sometimes in order to get it you are destructive to yourself and to others. You embrace anybody or anything to get it, when you want it bad enough. The loneliness comes from the addiction.
The Bible tells us that in the beginning the earth was without form, void and dark. Until God spoke, there was nothing; it was empty, in chaos, and dark. That’s how we are when we are born, because the Bible says, “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23) So we are all born into sin, and sin separates us from God. We are born separated, empty and void. We were created to be in relationship with God (who is Love). We were created needing Him and desiring Him; we were born addicted to Love.
The ironic thing about this addiction is, the more you try to find this in other ways, the more it keeps you from getting the real thing. You look for it in drugs, alcohol, ungodly relationships, sexual immorality. You try to impress people and get their approval and their praise…But all the while you are separating yourself from the real thing; from the agape love; from the unconditional love;…you aren’t getting fulfilled, because you’re getting the fake stuff, and it doesn’t work because it doesn’t give you the feeling that you were looking for; so you keep going further and further, looking; seeking and trying.
Just like in the beginning, with the earth; we have been created, but not completed by God. We are missing God and God is love. Without His love, we are empty, void and dark. We are lonely, disconnected and feeling abandoned, even when people are around us. There’s something missing. There’s a void that nothing that fill, except God. You were born addicted to God love; and without it, you will never be complete. Never!!!
Human love is given to those who are lovable; but God’s love embraces the unlovable.
When we are established and settled securely in the love of Christ; rooted like a tree and grounded; deeply and firmly founded…we can comprehend, understand and lay hold of the breadth, length and height; knowing the love of Christ that passes knowledge. Then we are filled with the fullness of God…not until then!
Who can take this love from you? Paul said he was persuaded (convinced, assured,) that nothing could separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. God’s love is unfailing.
When you experience the real love; the true love…then you learn to love, you learn to receive love; you find out that you deserve love; you realize that you are worth loving; worth being respected and you are to be valued, treasured and appreciated. You find out that you don’t have to compromise to get a hit, because the lover of your soul is with you always and continually; He will never leave nor forsake you; He’s died for you and rose for you; He’s not given up on you or walked out on you; He believes in you and He’ll help you; He has plans for you and He’s invested in you…He proved His loved for you in the past, and He continues to prove His love for you now. He loved you first and He loves you most. His love is perfect and complete; not dependent on your circumstances, or your situations; it’s not dependent on your color or your size; your gender or your education; it’s not dependent on where you’re from; who your family is, or how much money you have. You can’t earn this love, because He loved you while you were hating Him. His love doesn’t swing back and forth, and up and down. His love is constant and sure, consistent and guaranteed. It’s a love that will make you feel something that you can’t get from a person; you can’t experience from a drug and you can’t find in a store.
This is what you’ve been looking for all your life. You don’t get it by just showing up in church; you can’t get it by just saying a prayer every now and then.The love is there, but you have to receive it; you have to embrace it; you have to accept it; you have to admit that you need it!!!!
When you learn how to let God love you…when you learn to receive His love, then you can open up and love others. God will show you how to give it and embrace it!
Go ahead and admit it! You’re an addict…The first step to getting it, is admitting.
This is an addiction that is alright to feed; an addiction to your Father; to your God and to His love!!!
I John 4:8-10
I John 4:16-19