A few disturbing news topics, such as rape on college campuses, sex trafficking, horrible conditions in foster care for children, and children on the whole taking psychotropic drugs starting at a young age, especially in foster case, can make us come to the conclusion that American girl’s are leaving the nest too soon.
With the number of tragic killings that bombard our media, with war, the threat of perpetual war in the world’s hot spots like the Middle East, China, and Russia, is America turning a blind eye to young girls and the expectations on them?
Conversely, young women’s groups like those promoting “Emily’s List” and are supporting the pro-choice agenda, and making money early on with initiatives like “Early Money is like Yeast” while attending the Ignite Change luncheon recently in San Francisco. Pro-life vs. Pro-choice has always been and continues to be a controversial issue and an issue that all politicians tread on delicately, especially with the 2016 elections coming up.
But it’s clear that families have stepped beyond the “stay at home mom” phenomenon because economics show that it’s mandatory to have both parents in the workforce to stay above water, especially when planning a family. The statistics are staggering with regard to mental health issues in youth, especially those who are moved to the foster care system. It becomes more and more complex to find a happy balance between work, child rearing, spending quality time with spouse and children, especially with the growing distractions of media, smartphones, and other technology that numb the nurturing aspect of motherhood to a more technological precise, schedule-based existence for families.
Local Monterey author, and wife of the MPUSD Superintendent, Vanessa Diffenbaugh, sheds some light on the foster care experience for children and teens in her best selling book, “The Language of Flowers.”
In Monterey County, the gentrification society rules in some circles, where for instance in the City of Carmel, the median income is $100,000. For low income, very low income, and even moderately low income brackets of society, the issue of measuring up to the norm can be daunting to those who are not coming from wealthy backgrounds. The measuring standard for a “good upbringing” is wealth, and not necessarily love, care, and nurturing, and children and teens can be swayed by wealth in foster care vs. less wealth with a biological parent, especially a single parent. Any child will suffer the loss of relationship with a natural parent, but girls will more so because they are more vulnerable to exploitation than boys are, although boys are vulnerable, too.
While the initiatives for young women to be educated and earning their own money on an equal basis to men is admirable, parent’s and families should realize that it’s a tough and different world than it was even a decade ago, and shelter their daughters more so than their sons, because despite all the talk about gender equality, the female is still the weaker sex in the broad scope of things.
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