In today’s modern world everyday life can be full of challenges and stress for almost everyone. Why then do some people crumble under these conditions while others take life’s challenges head on and not only survive but thrive? In the new self help book ‘Stronger: Develop the Resilience You Need to Succeed’ by George S Everly Jr, Ph.D., Douglas A Strouse, Ph.D. and Dennis K McCormack, Ph.D. the authors write about the one thing that makes a difference: resilience.
Resilience is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. While some people have this natural ability research has found that it is a skill that anyone can build and strengthen. According to the authors there are five steps to increasing resiliency:
Active optimism is the belief that things will get better and is what ultimately leads to change and often becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
Decisive action is what makes the biggest difference because change will never happen unless there is some type of action involved.
Moral compass involve using honor, integrity, fidelity and ethical behavior to guide those actions.
Relentless tenacity means never giving up but also knowing when to quit.
Interpersonal support is gaining strength from friends and family.
These steps make up the chapters in the book and each includes a self assessment that readers can use to measure where they stand on each step. At the end of each chapter there are prescriptions and ‘homework’ for improving the skills that need work. Tying it all up are personal stories of people who have had hard times but in the end came out on top.
‘Stronger’ is an excellent book for anyone looking for advice on how to strengthen their character to meet the demands of a busy lifestyle. This includes that “when necessary, break down tasks into smaller parts. Delegate when you can…” and that when dealing with business matters it’s best to always be considered trustworthy because it will lead to more responsibilities and eventually more opportunities. The personal stories are fine examples of how it is possible to build resiliency and win in the game of life.
George S Everly Jr., Ph.D is a stress management expert, associate Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine and Professor of Psychology at Loyola University Maryland. Douglas A Strouse, Ph.D. is an expert on business resilience and founder and CEO of Global Data Source. Dennis K McCormack, Ph.D. is one of the original Navy SEALs and a pioneer in special operations leadership.
*A copy of this book was given for an honest review. The opinions expressed in this article are solely the author’s.