Bridesmaids can be a huge help during both wedding preparations and on the big day. Bridesmaids host the bridal party, throw the bachelorette party, offer moral support, act as a sounding board for crazy wedding dreams, and generally help the bride keep her sanity in the months and weeks leading up to the big day. It is only natural that a bride would want to show her maids how much she has appreciated them during this exciting, but stressful, time in her life.
Sometimes, it’s easiest for brides to purchase similar gifts for each of her maids. Robes are a popular gift for bridesmaids and can also be handy for those “getting ready” shots that have become a common part of wedding day photography. By gifting robes or embroidered shirts, brides are able to create a unified look for pictures, without asking bridesmaids to purchase any additional clothing.
Another gift option that helps brides maintain control of what their maids are wearing on the big day is jewelry. Brides often opt to gift bridesmaids the jewelry or accessories for the wedding day, both as a means of showing appreciation and as a way to gently steer the other girls into accessorizing the dress in the way the bride has planned. If a bride is marrying in the fall or winter, a shawl or pashmina is another good, and useful, gift option.
If the bride hopes to give gifts that are more personal to each bridesmaid, there are ways to do this and still keep things “fair.” Brides should pick a set amount of money for the gifts, and then stay within budget. Some brides may spend more on a maid or matron on honor than on the rest of the brides, or the bride may want to gift the hosts of the shower(s) and/or bachelorette party with a little something extra. Keep friends’ interests in mind while shopping for bridesmaid gifts. A nice leather passport holder and stylish travel kit would be great for the friend who loves to travel. A friend who enjoys the spa would probably appreciate a basket of bath goodies, such as scrubs, bubble bath, and lotions. Wine and cheese baskets, gift cards, even donations to favorite charities are all appropriate gifts, as long as the recipient has expressed an interest in, or a passion for, the subject of the gift.
Depending on circumstances (how many bridesmaids, the couple’s wedding budget, etc.), brides may also choose to treat their bridesmaid to services that typically precede the big day. A bride may treat her girls to a spa day before the wedding, during which she covers the cost of manicures and/or pedicures. A bride may also pay for, or chip in for, the services on the day of the wedding, such as hair styling and/ or make up application. Finally, a bride may offer to pay for the cost of the bridesmaid dress or shoes.
Bridesmaid gifts should be a way to show the girls standing up with the bride how much they mean to her. Deciding on gifts should not be stressful and purchasing gifts should not break the bank. While gifts can be fun and paid services can be helpful, the most important way to show appreciation for a bridesmaid is through a heartfelt, personal thank you note.