When it comes to sex for a man there are 5 myths that can destroy a man’s confidence and sexual performance. There is a saying about the big head and the little head and how they do not always work together, this is less of a joke and more of the truth. Most men do not have complete control over their penis and how it functions. The big head is not in control of the little head and it can be embarrassing, frustrating and confusing when this happens for a man.
Myth #1: A man is always interested and ready for sex. Men are not always interested and ready for sex, and when pressured it can lead to anxiety, even erectile dysfunction. Both men and woman are taught from television, books and even jokes, that a man gets an erection when the wind blows or a sexy woman walks by, this is not true. He is not always ready to get it on when his partner wants to. As a man matures he needs more mental and sexual stimulation as well as not putting himself in a bad situation.
Myth#2: He wakes up with a hard on so he must be sexually aroused: Almost all men have three nocturnal erections through out the night into the morning. Waking up with an erect penis is normal and in fact if a man does not wake up with an erect penis on a regular basis it may be a medical issue and he should see his doctor. The penis fulls with blood during the night and in the morning as a natural body function, not because the man is aroused. Some men many even get embarrassed by their morning erection if they really are not in the mood for sex and a woman assumes he is aroused.
Myth #3: He always wants to initiate and be in control during sex. This is another myth that both men and women have. For many men they like to take turns initiating sex and not always taking over in the bedroom. For men with erectile dysfunction this can be a way for him to have less pressure to perform, if the woman initiates and takes over. Some men can get turned off over time if they are always having to initiate sex as well as being rejected time and time again. For men that have high pressured jobs and are responsible for everyone all the time they may especially enjoy a woman taking over in the bedroom and showing him a good time, so he can relax and enjoy the ride.
Myth #4: If a man loses his erection during intercourse he is not attracted to his partner. For most men at some point in their lives they will have sex and lose their erection, this is normal. Blood flows to the penis and it flow out of the penis if a man gets anxious or stressed out. When anxious the body can go into a fight or flight mode and the penis will lose blood and the erection will go down. If this does happen it is best to focus on the moment, add in some direct stimulation and help him calm his nerves by taking over. Men that feel as though their partner is taking it personally or ask them if they are cheating on them, can cause a man to repeatedly have performance anxiety and lead to a continued problem.
Myth#5: Men don’t need intimacy like a woman does. For many men they prefer having an intimate connection with a woman. Men, just like a woman enjoy making love. Men like for a woman to desire him, show love to him and who gets pleasure from him. Having sex without intimacy can be fun once in a while, but over time it can be less fulfilling. When a man feels that his partner loves him the sex can become intimate sex and that is on a whole new level of fulfillment and connection.