“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
One of the subtlest hindrances to prayer is competitiveness between a husband and his wife. The Bible declares that a man and his wife are one flesh, one body. The Bible also declares that the parts of one body should not war against each other. So, whether the body being spoken about is a church congregation, the Christian Church at large, or a married couple, love should rule all relationships.
1 John 3:10, declares: “By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one who does not love his brother.”
1 John 4:20 states: “If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. 21And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.”
Is it possible for a prejudiced Christian to get to heaven? God alone knows. Some Christians are prejudiced against those of the other sex, some are prejudiced against those of other races, some are prejudiced against those of other nations. If Christians live in a world where it is considered “normal” to be racist or anti-women, can they be saved? Ony God knows. There are many prejudiced Christians who do not do racist or murderous acts against others. Perhaps they feel their relationship to God has not been affected by their hateful hearts. But is it possible that their hateful hearts have been affecting their prayers? Is it possible that small lies or cruel words can hinder prayers? God is merciful but should Christians presume on His loving mercy?
Isaiah 59:1-3 declares: “Behold, the LORD’S hand is not so short That it cannot save; Nor is His ear so dull That it cannot hear. 2But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear. 3For your hands are defiled with blood And your fingers with iniquity; Your lips have spoken falsehood, Your tongue mutters wickedness.”
There should be no competitiveness, comparing, prejudice, or malice. Christians are to rejoice with those who rejoice — whether the rejoicer is a spouse or a fellow Christian. Christians must be happy for each other’s success, and husbands should be happy if their wives are successful. If a married man attempts to belittle his wife’s skills or thwarts her success, he is thwarting his own life. The same can be said of Christians who mock each other, and Christians who prize their race or nationality above all others. Christians are servants of love. A heart that shows a lack of love toward those we are spiritually-connected with is destroying its own future and hindering its own prayers.